Your birth provider: Are they the right one for you?

Choosing your birth provider in the Rio Grande Valley

Doulas are a great source of support for your upcoming birth. One of those ways we as doulas can support you is by introducing questions you can bring up at your next appointment with your provider. 

Sometimes we select our provider because they were recommended or have been a part of our lives for a really long time. That doesn't always mean they are the right fit for us. (Now, they very well could be the perfect fit, we are certainly are not trying to pull you away from your fave provider at all.) Asking questions can help you see how their own way of practicing will serve you on your birth day.

Example questions: 

Do you follow evidence-based birthing practices? 

Do you differentiate between high and low-risk pregnancies? If yes, how?

What can I expect my birth to look like (typically speaking) if I am a low-risk patient? 

What is your cesarean birth rate? 

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Add questions about the current Covid-19 restrictions at your provider’s hospital. Such as:

Will they allow you to have a doula + your partner?

When do you get tested for Covid-19?

Is baby separated from you and your partner if you are positive for Covid-19?

Will baby be allowed immediate skin to skin time despite a positive Covid-19 test result?

You may think of other questions that may be very relevant to how you wish to birth your baby. Ask them. You are well within your rights to ask what you need to ask to get to know your provider a little better. This allows you to explore the person who will be assisting you when you bring your baby earthside (it’s a pretty big deal.) Birth matters. Having the right provider matters.

Another way to really hone in on where your provider stands on certain issues that may be important to you would be to prepare a birth plan and present it early(ish) on in your pregnancy. A birth plan does not guarantee that your birth will go exactly as planned. It will, however, open up dialog between you and your provider. Once they review it, you will find out whether they are on board with all the things you wish to achieve or ask for at your birth. Examples: Delayed cord clamping, free movement while laboring, no episiotomy, no induction unless absolutely necessary, etc. 

If you need some help creating your birth plan, feel free to reach out to me. You and I can sit down, talk about how to put one together and maybe I can assist you if you need a little guidance. You can also check out this link which will allow you to build a visual birth plan for your own birth. Click Here.  My most recent client loved her plan and her providers found it super easy to read while they got ready for the pushing phase.

Again, you simply want to open up dialog and find out if you are with the right provider for you.

You are hiring them for their services and if their services are way off base with how you wish to birth your baby, then it may be time to explore others.

Have any questions for me? Shoot me a message, I’d love to chat.


~Norma Hess

Sojourning Birth

My own breastfeeding journey...

Breastfeeding Photos McAllen, Texas 

Hazy memories still linger in my head from those first breastfeeding attempts... I was groggy, trying to wrap my mind around my very first emergency cesarean, putting on my poker face when everyone asked if I was okay. Those first latches didn’t come easily but overall, I’d say we had a fairly smooth 8-10 month breastfeeding journey. 

My second baby comes around and it’s time to figure it all out again. I was determined, I was mourning the loss of the vbac I never got, I was holding this second baby and ready to take on the world again. Another successful breastfeeding journey in the books! 12 months and proud...

Ben was another easy peasy latching baby... yet another failed vbac attempt... another hit to my soul but here he was, healthy, beautiful and in my arms. He nursed like a champ for 2 years. 

Then came Abbey. This family-centered cesarean healed my soul. She was skin to skin immediately and we formed a bond from the start. She and I had some hurdles to get our nursing sessions to flow smoothly. Poor latch, sore nipples, heavy let downs and lots of spit up. Make that TONS of spit up. Overall, I would say that despite the hiccups, we did alright. She is by far the longest nursing journey. We surpassed the 3-year mark this past December and she’s still going strong. Extended breastfeeding is not anything I ever thought about when I held my first little guy... yet here we are, 3 1/2 yrs into my very last breastfeeding round. 

Sometimes I find myself wishing I could have my body back and then I remember those days when the stomach flu strikes and Abbey escaped the wrath of illness... or at least gets by with her “nursies.” Other times, I wish I could just sleep without a toddler trying to yank at my shirt... well, you get the idea... it isn’t always peachy. 

Well, it seems my breast decided to retire without giving me the heads up or waving the white flag. I developed a clogged duct recently (quite common yet, new to me.) Well, this darn duct is stubborn as they come. It’s been a week of warm compresses, lecithin supplements, massage, nursing and more nursing, Vit C, antibiotics, etc etc... the clog persists. Now reality is hitting me in the face and every latch seems like it may be the last. The flood of emotions is high not only because this clog is driving me crazy, but because this is it. She’s the last baby. The last latch that finalizes this chapter of my book. Goodness, I can’t even begin to describe what this bittersweet feeling is like. I want to hold her extra close, savor every last nursing cuddle and hang on to the memory of what has been my life for the past few years. 

These littles will never be this little again. This life of ours will never be what it currently is. We are forever changing and growing as our family moves forward and although it’s exciting, it’s also leaving this mama with a big aching heart. 

~norma

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Hospital Newborn Sessions | McAllen, Texas

I want to take a moment to talk a little bit about Fresh 48 sessions and why you should consider one for your next baby's birth. 

Those first few hours in the hospital/home/birth center are incredible. You have just met your sweet little one and there's so much oxytocin running through your body. Your baby is perfectly fresh, sleepy and new. 

Within the last couple of days, you have experienced one of life's most incredible highs. With time, so much of those busy days becomes blurry and details fade. Your baby will never look this way again. Ever. Isn't that incredible? Newborns change so fast in those first few weeks. 

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